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#88761 --- 12/27/04 10:16 PM
Re: Another Murder in Auburn
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Registered: 05/28/01
Posts: 1841
Loc: Waterloo, NY
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There is no way a 15 yr old should first of all be having sex
LOL get real! 15 is quite old to be having sex THESE days. We are lucky if 10, 11, 12 year olds aren't getting pregnant!!!! I'm not saying it's right.. it's just reality.. There are many situations where there is NO family or the family that is there does NOT care.. so whats to happen then?
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#88763 --- 12/27/04 11:49 PM
Re: Another Murder in Auburn
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Registered: 06/05/00
Posts: 17022
Loc: Brewerton, NY, USA
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by 15 I had had 4 fourteen year old's and 1 sixteen year old.
And all family 
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#88766 --- 12/28/04 07:44 PM
Re: Another Murder in Auburn
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Registered: 12/28/04
Posts: 8
Loc: Corning, NY
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Hola, I firmly believe that abortion is only a course of last resort and should never be taken lightly. I do question the health consquences of a 15 yr old body trying to carry and deliver an infant. But - she made it through the physical trauma, but the emotional trauma was yet to come. I think of quite a few childless couples i know who would give anything to protect and love that child, and how sad that it's little life came to an end in such a violent way. So so very sad.
I had my son at 19. I am a great mother. There are PLENTY of girls, that get pregnant as young as 12, they keep the child and pretty much the child is "pawned" off on the grandparents. I have come across countless message boards on the internet about 11- 15 year olds being pregnant, I was appalled! (sp) I didn't realize there were so many GIRLS having babies. When I was 12, I was still playing with my barbie dolls!
But I was also smart to read about pregnancy and post partum when I was pregnant. I knew what was to come after I had my son, and what COULD come...like post-partum depression, which is more common then a lot of people think.
I think that if any young girl has a child under the age is I don't know...say 18, that they should be FORCED to take classes that teach you about your bbody, what it will go through, and what to expect afterwards.
Sorry if this offends anyone, or sounds rude. I don't mean for it to be.
Eileen
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~*~ Eileen ~*~
Mother to Jonathan Elijah 10-23-2003
& Alexander Thomas 02-16-2007
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#88772 --- 12/28/04 08:47 PM
Re: Another Murder in Auburn
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Registered: 12/28/04
Posts: 8
Loc: Corning, NY
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In a sense, you are doomed if you do ( teach about pregnancy/body ) and doomed if you don't.
If you do, it may promote sexual activity and there may be more young pregnancies. But at the same time, if you don't teach about pregnancy, many young females might not recognize the symptoms of pregnancy, therefore there might not be any pre-natal care until their 2nd or 3rd trimesters. The first trimester is the most critical for care.
I would LOVE to go to HS's and talk to classes to tell them how it ISN'T easy, how I ended up with a emergency c-section, and a child that was born with health issues, stuff I never even thought about.
But I am not sure if they have anything like that here. In FL, they had some teens come in to talk to us.
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~*~ Eileen ~*~
Mother to Jonathan Elijah 10-23-2003
& Alexander Thomas 02-16-2007
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#88773 --- 12/28/04 08:50 PM
Re: Another Murder in Auburn
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Registered: 08/06/03
Posts: 254
Loc: Arizona
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I agree, it is a problem, but since there arent enough caseworkers for the "real" problems ie child abuse, molestations, etc, this would fall way down the ladder. I wish that these parents would just "get over themselves" and be responsible parents. I work with a women that had twins at 15 and a 3rd baby at 16. I notice that alot of times she acts just like a teenager, mooning over boyband pictures, hanging out with her friends and basically ignoring her kids. I asked her what was up and her reply almost knocked me over. She said and I quote "I didnt get to be a teenager because I was having babies, so now I am trying to get back my lost years" I told her that was her problem, those years are gone and start acting like an adult. Whats really funny is her twins are now almost 15 and they are more mature than she is.
I wish there was something that could be done, but I just dont what it could be.
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#88774 --- 12/28/04 08:56 PM
Re: Another Murder in Auburn
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Registered: 12/28/04
Posts: 8
Loc: Corning, NY
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I agree, it is a problem, but since there arent enough caseworkers for the "real" problems ie child abuse, molestations, etc, this would fall way down the ladder. I wish that these parents would just "get over themselves" and be responsible parents. I work with a women that had twins at 15 and a 3rd baby at 16. I notice that alot of times she acts just like a teenager, mooning over boyband pictures, hanging out with her friends and basically ignoring her kids. I asked her what was up and her reply almost knocked me over. She said and I quote "I didnt get to be a teenager because I was having babies, so now I am trying to get back my lost years" I told her that was her problem, those years are gone and start acting like an adult. Whats really funny is her twins are now almost 15 and they are more mature than she is.
I wish there was something that could be done, but I just dont what it could be.
Wow. I could never do that. Like you said, those years passed. It was her decision to have sex at a young age, protection or not, you know the consequences of sex, PREGNANCY.
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~*~ Eileen ~*~
Mother to Jonathan Elijah 10-23-2003
& Alexander Thomas 02-16-2007
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