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#771598 --- 03/15/08 08:33 AM "Just" A Mom?
Strawberry Jam Offline
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Registered: 07/11/04
Posts: 34421
Loc: Herkimer County NY
JUST A MOM?



A woman, renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk's office,
Was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation.

She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

"What I mean is," explained the recorder,
"do you have a job or are you just a ...?"

"Of course I have a job," snapped the woman.

"I'm a Mom."

"We don't list 'Mom' as an occupation;

'housewife' covers it,"
Said the recorder emphatically.


I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself

In the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall.
The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised,
Efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like,
"Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar."

"What is your occupation?" she probed.

What made me say it? I do not know.
The words simply popped out.
"I'm a Research Associate in the field of
Child Development and Human Relations."

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and
Looked up as though she had not heard right.

I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words.
Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written,
In bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest,
"just what you do in your field?"

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice,
I heard myself reply,
"I have a continuing program of research,
(what mother doesn't)
In the laboratory and in the field,
(normally I would have said indoors and out).
I'm working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole family)
And already have four credits (all daughters).
Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities,
(any mother care to disagree?)
And I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it).
But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers

And the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money."

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she
Completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career,
I was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3.
Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model,
(a 6 month old baby) in the child development program,
Testing out a new vocal pattern.
I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy!
And I had gone on the official records as someone more

Distinguished and indispensable to mankind than "just another Mom."



Motherhood!

What a glorious career!
Especially when there's a title on the door.


Does this make grandmothers
"Senior Research associates in the field of Child Development and Human Relations"
And great grandmothers
"Executive Senior Research Associates?"
I think so!!!
I also think it makes Aunts "

Associate Research Assistants."



Please send this to another Mom,
Grandmother,
Aunt,

And other friends you know.



May your troubles be less,

Your blessing be more,

And nothing but happiness come through your door!

AMEN!!

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#771897 --- 03/16/08 12:59 AM Re: "Just" A Mom? [Re: Strawberry Jam]
AbuDhabi Offline
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Registered: 05/11/05
Posts: 6474
Loc: Doha, Qatar
You know, it's one of the tragedies of our era that effective parenting is simply NOT valued. It's right down there in the muck with being well-educated. It just doesn't matter to the society as a whole, and so is not rewarded.
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#771900 --- 03/16/08 02:04 AM Re: "Just" A Mom? [Re: AbuDhabi]
VM Smith Offline
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Registered: 11/28/05
Posts: 38160
Loc: Ship of Fools
Dear Research Associate,

We have decided, after consultation and analysis, that we cannot, at this time, honor your recent request to be awarded the National Research Associate Domestic Home Front Hero Medal, with Homeland Security Oak Leaf Cluster.

This program was discontinued effective 1/1/08 due to fiscal difficulties. Due to funding uncertainties, we are not contemplating future funding of this program until yap, yap, blah, blah, squeek, chirp, etc..

We know that you would not have had the kid if you'd known that this program would not be available, but times are tough; there's a war on, you know, and the Department has had to reprioritize due yap, bark, snort, yelp..

We sincerely hope that this has not put a crimp in your child-rearing plans and hope that the expectation of a good outcome and a successful future for your snuffle, growl, howl, shreik...

Sincerely,
Hugh G. Mindblower
Chief
Bureau of Micromanagement
United States Department of Homeland security
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If you vote for government, you have no right to complain about what government does.

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#772112 --- 03/16/08 10:15 AM Re: "Just" A Mom? [Re: AbuDhabi]
Strawberry Jam Offline
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Registered: 07/11/04
Posts: 34421
Loc: Herkimer County NY
Originally Posted By: AbuDhabi
You know, it's one of the tragedies of our era that effective parenting is simply NOT valued. It's right down there in the muck with being well-educated. It just doesn't matter to the society as a whole, and so is not rewarded.



My mother was a stay at home mom. At times, while raising my kids, I envied her. At others, I was glad to be out doing what I was doing while my kids grew up.I stayed at home much of their toddler years, but finances dictated that it would not be prudent to continue to do so.

Now, I watch my daughter as she returned to work last month, after being a stay at home mom and internet college student. She struggled with it just as I did. But, knows she must do for her family.

I know Mom wanted to be out in the work field, too. I know she envied me that I did go to work.

Both stay at home moms and working moms have struggles to deal with. As do stay at home dads and working dads.

And you are right Abu, it seems the more education you get, the more you are told you are "over qualified" and they tend to take the lower paying jobs to make ends meet.

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