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#1313604 - 12/24/11 08:38 AM Bullying in Dundee School
fredfred
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Registered: 06/03/11
Posts: 14
Loc: dundee 		I am trying to reach out and find out if anyone else is having trouble with their children or friends of their children who are being bullied. We need to stop it soon. I know it has been on going for years and am tired of being told that it is being handled or that we should teach our kids how to deal with it. Is anyone else feed up?
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#1313605 - 12/24/11 08:46 AM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: fredfred]
buckshot_00
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Registered: 07/31/05
Posts: 823
Loc: Finger Lakes 		Tell the principal. In the mean time, fill up envelopes with excrement and leave them in the bully's mailbox. The message will be sent.
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#1313624 - 12/24/11 09:46 AM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: buckshot_00]
Marge
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Registered: 03/20/10
Posts: 278
Loc: new york
Originally Posted By: buckshot_00
Tell the principal. In the mean time, fill up envelopes with excrement and leave them in the bully's mailbox. The message will be sent.


Yep. Real good role model! Great solution to the problem.
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#1313690 - 12/24/11 09:18 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: Marge]
luvpy
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Registered: 03/13/10
Posts: 25
Loc: penn yan 		I work at Dundee, let me know how I can help. Elementary or High school? I know I won't tolerate it.
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#1313703 - 12/24/11 11:05 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: luvpy]
dj205
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Registered: 03/26/08
Posts: 945
Loc: riverside 		It's all about their upbringing. Talk to the parents. If they'
re made to feel inferior at home, then, they feel the need to act superior at school.
Hence...bullying
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#1313747 - 12/25/11 12:46 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: fredfred]
Rocky
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Registered: 12/25/11
Posts: 9
Loc: ny, yates co 		My Grandson left Dundee several years ago because of bullying. Now my younger grandson who is still there is being bullied.
This is an ongoing thing. he has been told He needs to use his "coping skills". To me that says "put up with it, I can't be bothered."
Mean while if He fights back, He gets detention.
Whatever happened to zero tolerance? Whatever happened to fair treatment?
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#1313748 - 12/25/11 12:48 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: dj205]
Rocky
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Registered: 12/25/11
Posts: 9
Loc: ny, yates co 		Does this mean the child is never at fault, only the parents? At some point we need to be responsible for our own actions.
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#1313758 - 12/25/11 02:31 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: Rocky]
JoeSimmons5
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Registered: 10/14/09
Posts: 237
Loc: Yates County 		For a very quick, rapid and effective solution.... Document the abuse using notes, video, recordings (there are all kinds of products for this). Report it to the leadership at the school and document these exchanges in similar ways. If nothing changes document this and then using your evidence, file a law suit against the school for $2.5 million and turn it over to the national media before you kid hangs him/herself or shoots have his classmates with Da Da's unsecured handgun. School officials should be all over this issue because of the potential expensive consequences for ignorance and avoidance. Good luck!
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#1313764 - 12/25/11 04:45 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: Rocky]
dj205
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Registered: 03/26/08
Posts: 945
Loc: riverside
Originally Posted By: Rocky
Does this mean the child is never at fault, only the parents? At some point we need to be responsible for our own actions.

"The child" the bullied or the bullier? Children learn from what they see or are taught at home. YES!! the parents are responsible for this!!
I have taught my kids to be nice and respectful and they are the ones that get bullied for being nice.
Bullys' are scared, immature, lack of "good" attention brats.
A 4th grader has responsibility for his/her own actions against an upper classman? Open your eyes...Obviously, you've never been bullied as a child. The child has no recourse but to cower down to the bully.
Ever confronted a bully's parent? "Not my kid, they wouldn't do that!" So, if the parent won't own up to their childs' behavior, why do you expect my child to? He's the little guy against the big guy. It's a very scary situation. I'm glad that you've never experienced it.
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#1313765 - 12/25/11 04:49 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: JoeSimmons5]
dj205
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Registered: 03/26/08
Posts: 945
Loc: riverside
Originally Posted By: JoeSimmons5
For a very quick, rapid and effective solution.... Document the abuse using notes, video, recordings (there are all kinds of products for this). Report it to the leadership at the school and document these exchanges in similar ways. If nothing changes document this and then using your evidence, file a law suit against the school for $2.5 million and turn it over to the national media before you kid hangs him/herself or shoots have his classmates with Da Da's unsecured handgun. School officials should be all over this issue because of the potential expensive consequences for ignorance and avoidance. Good luck!



Ignorance and avoidance.....absolutely.
Kids, it does get better! Just remember, the bullies' are the ignorant ones.....not you \:\)
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#1313766 - 12/25/11 04:53 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: Rocky]
dj205
Senior Member


Registered: 03/26/08
Posts: 945
Loc: riverside
Originally Posted By: Rocky
My Grandson left Dundee several years ago because of bullying. Now my younger grandson who is still there is being bullied.
This is an ongoing thing. he has been told He needs to use his "coping skills". To me that says "put up with it, I can't be bothered."
Mean while if He fights back, He gets detention.
Whatever happened to zero tolerance? Whatever happened to fair treatment?



You're confusing me...you talk out of both sides of your mouth.
Here you stand up for your grandson and in the next post you don't?
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#1313769 - 12/25/11 06:31 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: buckshot_00]
fredfred
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Registered: 06/03/11
Posts: 14
Loc: dundee 		he told me he has told the principal. I just found out that it is getting worse and so after the holidays I will be contacting the school.
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#1313770 - 12/25/11 06:33 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: Rocky]
fredfred
Junior Member


Registered: 06/03/11
Posts: 14
Loc: dundee 		My son has moved away too but then came back thinking it would be better. it didn't. we will be documenting the incidents if nothing changes soon. my understanding is that it is the same few kids doing it. when i say the names the other people i have talked to say yeah that is the same name they have been told.
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#1313835 - 12/26/11 06:30 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: dj205]
Rocky
Junior Member


Registered: 12/25/11
Posts: 9
Loc: ny, yates co 		I'm sorry. My reply was poorly worded. My intention was to say the bully at some point, is old enough to be responsible for his own actions.
Agreed, the parents probably should have paid more attention, but by high school we should be exercising our own judgement, especially if the victim is obviously distraught.
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#1313859 - 12/26/11 10:46 PM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: Rocky]
BrendaBabe
Member


Registered: 03/16/10
Posts: 61
Loc: NY, Yates 		Have your kid get a clip of him or herself being bullied along with audio (you will need a small camera and wire). This will confirm that what he/she is telling you is accurate and help you measure the level and type of bullying that is alledgedly occurring. If severe, put the clip on youtube, tell everyone on this forum what the link is and watch the problem go away rather quickly. I was bullied as a kid and I would like to see kids that do this sent home so their parents can educate and watch them during the day.
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#1313877 - 12/27/11 07:18 AM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: BrendaBabe]
fredfred
Junior Member


Registered: 06/03/11
Posts: 14
Loc: dundee 		where do i get the equipment for something like this and how much would it cost? how do i make it so it isn't seen or so he can turn on and off as needed? it is an idea i have played with but wasn't sure exactly how to do it and no one know.
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#1313971 - 12/28/11 04:02 AM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: fredfred]
BrendaBabe
Member


Registered: 03/16/10
Posts: 61
Loc: NY, Yates 		http://www.spytechs.com/spy_cameras/spy-camera.htm

http://www.nitroplanes.com/72p-52-voicecam.html

Well worth the money if there is truly and issue with the school ignoring a child who is being bullied.
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#1313984 - 12/28/11 08:30 AM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: fredfred]
Marge
Member


Registered: 03/20/10
Posts: 278
Loc: new york
Originally Posted By: fredfred
where do i get the equipment for something like this and how much would it cost? how do i make it so it isn't seen or so he can turn on and off as needed? it is an idea i have played with but wasn't sure exactly how to do it and no one know.


Sorry to hear there is bullying going on. Something that I think would help, and I don't know if the DD School District has it, but surveillance cameras at school could help. Penn Yan has them and they have helped in many cases. No child should be bullied by anyone. School is supposed to be a safe place. I guess the message that was trying to be sent by the H.E.R.O. group from Penn Yan didn't sink in. No, the cameras aren't going to stop it but it is proof that something is going on. I hope this problem can be solved soon for the parties involved.
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#1314006 - 12/28/11 09:40 AM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: Marge]
Red22
Senior Member


Registered: 06/21/06
Posts: 728
Loc: ny 		Call or show up at the school every day to speak with the principal. If/when that stops working, go straight to the superintendent and tell them that you are very serious about letting the media know that there is a bullying problem in the school. Tell more parents, write a letter to the editor, contact local newspapers. Trust me, once you start letting them know that you have no intentions of letting up, they will change their tone and start taking it seriously. Not to mention the legal ramifications if/when the principal ignores what is happening and allows children to be harassed in what is supposed to be a SAFE environment. Good luck and whatever you do, don't give up.

Edited by Red22 (12/28/11 09:41 AM)
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#1314016 - 12/28/11 10:20 AM Re: Bullying in Dundee School [Re: Red22]
lighthouselover
Junior Member


Registered: 12/28/11
Posts: 6
Loc: ny 		good luck...my child was bullied bad..he had video recording of it on his phone of several boys ganf tackling him and kicking him while at a dance...after weeks of fighting with the shool needless to say all these boys recieved was a 2 dance suspnsion...these boys even aditted to their actions...and it wasz not just my child but 2 others that they attacked that same nite and not jsut 1x but several times during the nite....i am still very livid over this..my shild has told me holding grudges only slows down the healing process and we need to forgive and move on..but how does a parent forgive and move on when they see the fear in their childs face and can hear it in their voice...i am so aggrovated over this..
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